I’d like to take this time out to discuss two of the most
important things in the life of a young college mans life, best friends and
girlfriends. Whether it be your girlfriends’ friends or your friends’
girlfriends, the balance of, as well as the correct approach to these two as
they relate to each other is vital to a healthy college lifestyle.
GIRLFRIENDS BEST FRIENDS
As
a man in a relationship, it you have willingly accepted your responsibility to
make your woman happy and deal with all of her emotions, mood swings, and
overall irrationality. You have also willingly accepted your responsibility to
deal with the emotions, mood swings, and irrationality of her best friends,
whether you want to or not.
Your
girlfriends best friends opinion of you is crucial to the success of your
relationship. Don’t believe me? Think about whom she spends her down time with
when she is not with you. Think about whom she goes to for advice when you two
have issues. Think about whom she is posting instagram pictures with when it’s
not cuddling with you. Exactly! Earning approval from your girlfriends’ best
friend is equally as important to earning her fathers approval. A positive
relationship with her best friend results in positive reinforcement from her
most trusted confidant. A negative relationship with her, however, results in a
troublesome pain in the ass.
BEST FRIENDS GIRLFRIEND
This is NOT a good idea.
Your
relationship with your best friends girlfriend is a very interesting, yet
important dynamic. I have found that when dealing with the significant other of
your best friend, that the best course of action is not to get too close. Get
to know the basics of your best friends girlfriend, but not the specifics. It
is important for this to be a very healthy relationship so that she feels
comfortable around and accepted by his friends, because that will make her
happy, and make your friends life much, much easier. It is just as important,
however, to not get too close to your friends girlfriend to the point that you
consider her “your friend” before you remember that she is “your friends
girlfriend” first and foremost.
YOUR BEST FRIEND & YOUR GIRLFRIEND
As
I said in the beginning, these are two of the most important people in your
college life, and their happiness is vital to your emotional wellbeing. When
dealing with your best friend, and your girlfriend, the most important thing is
balance. You have to
effectively allot your time between the two of them efficiently. You do not
want your best friend to think that your girlfriend changed you, and you don’t
want your girl friend to think that you spend too much time with “the guys” and
not enough time with her. Time management is key.
If
you find that perfect balance, as well as make sure that your best friend and
your girlfriend are maintaining a cop esthetic relationship at the least, I
promise you will find your college life a lot healthier, less stressful, and
more fulfilling.
SIMBA SAYS:
Timon
and Pumba were two of the most important people in my life. They were there for
me through thick & thin through my formative years, and for that, I am
forever grateful. When Nala came back into my life, I was fearful that I would
have to make a choice between my best friends, and my girlfriend, but thankfully
I didn’t have to. We all came together beautifully, and it created one of the
greatest bonds I have experienced in my lifetime. I highly recommend making
sure that you maintain these relationships with care.
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